TELLING THE STORY WITH LOVE
"What I want to do is tell your loved one’s story. In the way you want and with all the details absolutely correct. And I want the service to be what you want, with the right music, if required, readings and, if you feel they’d be helpful, prayers or other religious content. Or not as the case may be. It’s completely up to you.
I have readings and poems which I often use, but I would welcome any suggestions by you. And if any member of the family or friend wants to speak, that would be great.
I will make sure that you see and have a chance to correct everything, both the main service and what’s said at the graveside, if there is to be a burial. There should be no surprises for you.
The list below may help you clarify things, especially, the story of your loved one’s life and people who should be mentioned. It’s not a form, and you don’t need to fill it in or answer all the questions, but it may spark off some thoughts and ideas. You can write as much or as little as you want. You can copy the questions and answer them as fully or briefly as you think appropriate, and then email me at firstname.lastname@example.org Or print your thoughts out and give it to me when we meet to talk things through.
Phone me at any time."
Funeral date and time
Music for period of reflection
People who are to speak in addition to Tom
Full name of deceased
Maiden name if appropriate
Nickname or everyday name
Date of birth
Parents home address
Brothers and sisters, including month and year of birth. Are they still alive? If not, when did they die?
Social media - Facebook, Instagram, Twitter - please check to see if comments there might be used.
Early life - schooldays, memories, pals, stories
College or university
Date left school/college
Job history and career
Stories, memories and friends from work
Partner - name, how they met, married if they did,
Stories and memories from life together
Children - names and birthdays
Children’s partners and grandchildren
Stories and comments from children and grandchildren
Holidays - stories and comments
If you had to describe your loved one - what words would you use/were used?
Hobbies and interests
Books, TV, cinema favourites
Things which should not be referred to.
Cause of death
Date of death
Place of burial
Is there a bus for folk to get to the cemetery/reception?
Will you line up to greet mourners after the burial?
Venue for funeral tea/reception
Friends or neighbours to mention or contact
Additional thoughts and comments